Packing your hospital bag for birth
There's a million blogs out there telling you what to pack in your hospital bag with the usual lists of things to pack for mum and baby. I'm of the belief that you're a pretty smart individual and can work out how many pairs of knickers to pack for a couple of nights away so I'm not going to cover the basics. Suffice to say, pack clothes that you feel super comfortable in and allow for easy access to your boobs if you're going to breastfeed. Go for function over form. Practicality over style.
Or hey, if baby brain has well and truly kicked in, see the resources at the end for your standard list.
Instead, I want to talk about three things to go put in your hospital bag right now if they aren't already in there. Not only are they useful in keeping you comfortable during your stay, they might even help you birth your baby!
1. Your own pillow
I've never known a hospital pillow to be as comfortable as your own and it can be used before, during and after birth. Enough said.
BONUS TIP: pop a drop of your favourite essential oil or scent on the corner of your pillow. Smell is a powerful way to access our limbic system and connect to positive emotions and feelings of wellbeing. If you don't have any essential oils, ask your doula to raid her stash!
2. Your favourite snacks and drinks
While most of us know Its super important to stay hydrated during labour, did you also know that eating your favourite food or sipping your favourite drink may also make labour less painful? Here's a tip to cope with contractions in early labour: during a contraction mindfully eat a square of your most indulgent chocolate (or whatever floats your boat). Focus all your attention on how it tastes, what it feels like in your mouth. If it's crunchy, what does it sound like? Use as many of your senses to describe in your mind what you are slowly eating. This is just one way of providing mental distraction from the pain and reducing the amount of pain signals being sent to your brain. Obviously you can't eat a square of chocolate for every contraction, but its certainly an option to try occasionally.
Also think about what you might like your first meal after birth to be. A hospital sandwich that's been sitting around or something tasty and nutritious you can bring from home? Reward yourself for your hard work!
PS Yes you are allowed to eat and drink during labour! See the evidence on eating and drinking during labour
3. Small objects from home that bring you joy and happy memories.
Set them up around your hospital room and place some in the bathroom too if you have access to your own. Items could include photos, a memento from a favourite holiday, something with your favourite scent or even the wedding ring on your hand. Not only will they help turn a foreign environment into a more homely atmosphere where you feel safer, they can also help with pain management. When you look at them, reconnect with the happy memories they provide. Again providing distraction from the work of labour and encouraging your brain to release your body's natural oxytocin and pain-relieving endorphins.
BONUS TIP: Practise looking at, touching and smelling these objects while you are pregnant to help train your brain into automatically releasing those endorphins. Yep, you're going to Pavlov's Dogs yourself!
Are you looking for further information on the topics discussed in this blog? Here you go!
Your Brain in Birth
The Role of Hormones in Birth
Women's & Children's Hospital List of What to Pack
Leave a Comment below and let others know what you found handy to take to hospital
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Make the best choices for your birth
We are faced with making a lot of decisions for ourselves and our child during pregnancy and birth. Some couples prefer to let their obstetrician call the shots but many want to feel in control and confident of the decisions around their care.
How can you know if you are getting all the information you need to make an informed choice?
Do you understand what you have been told?
What if you feel uncomfortable with what the doctor or midwife is telling you to do?
As your doula I will find out what your preferences are for childbirth and how you feel about communicating these to your care provider. We can role-play different styles of communication with you and your partner so that when you are faced with making a decision, you feel more confident to do so. I will also talk about various decision making tools to assist you with the myriad of choices available to you.
Here are 10 handy questions to get you started.
So the other week I was driving my children to school and we had a car accident.
The adrenaline set in and we were all in shock. I was trembling all over, my daughter was screaming, my two boys in the backseat were deathly silent and the driver of the other car wasn't moving. I remember her sunglasses had fallen out of her broken window and were laying in the smashed glass next to her car. It all happened so quickly yet everything was in slow motion.
The crunching of metal, the breaking of glass, our car being turned around, strangers coming running to help us.
The man in the red jumper standing on the corner just filming it all like he was going to be a social media sensation. Yes, I remember you very clearly, dickhead.
The staff in a nearby business bringing my children hot chocolate. The unknown man who, judging by appearances, didn't have much to give yet gave my children a new toy he happened to have with him. The help from the emergency services. Thank you for your kindness.
It could have had a very different ending, but thank the universe, everyone was able to get out of their cars and walk away. I am beyond grateful that this was the outcome, that everyone got to go home to their families. That besides a few bruises and some whiplash, everyone will be physically okay.
You know this right. That I am grateful that my children are healthy. I don't know any person that wouldn't be grateful. Yet I am still upset by what has happened. I still replay what happened in my mind. I can still feel the fear and uncertainty of those first few moments.
And that will take me a little while to get over.
In the meantime, I still have to go on with my life. I still have to drive my children down the same road. I have to sort out all the paperwork and phone calls that go along with a car accident. I still have to comfort my children who draw pictures of what happened. I am still grateful that our bruises will heal and we will be okay.
So why do people keep telling me "You should be grateful!".
That cars can be replaced but people can't.
I know this. You don't have to remind me.
I know it can be difficult to be with someone going through an emotional time. That you don't always know what to say or that you want to make me feel better. But I'm not asking you to fix it. I'm asking you to just sit with me and let me be, however I am feeling. Hold that space for me.
Don't start telling me about your friend's car accident that was probably worse than mine and how they are just happy to be here. I'm allowed to be upset that the new-to-us car I got only three days prior is now gone. Don't brush off my feelings as though they don't matter when compared to the outcome. How a person feels after a traumatic event is important too. The memories will take longer to heal than the bruises. I hope you understand.
The point of all this though isn't really to tell you about me.
It's to make you think about those women and families who go through a traumatic birth and are told they should just be grateful that they have a healthy baby. A traumatic birth doesn't have to be a cesarean birth either. A traumatic birth is whatever the woman says it is for her. Where you are left feeling scared, fearful, out of control, traumatised. And yes, you can still be grateful that your baby is healthy.
A healthy baby isn't all that matters. Parents matter too. Their mental, emotional and physical health is important. The fact that mum and baby are alive doesn't cancel out what happened to them during labour and birth or how they feel about it.
Please be mindful of your words and don't tell them to be grateful their baby is okay because believe me, they already are.
Kelly is a mum to four amazing children. She works as a birth, bereavement & postnatal doula in Adelaide and also offers placenta encapsulation services.
If you feel upset about your birth please seek support. Here are some resources that may be useful
Roughly one third of women admit to being fearful of childbirth with anxiety peaking in the last trimester.
Reasons for this fear and anxiety may include: