Do Dads Dig Doulas?
During pregnancy and birth, one of the biggest decisions you will need to make is who you are going to have supporting you and present in your birth space. That decision includes the possibility of hiring a doula to provide information, resources, physical comfort and emotional well-being.
Often it is the mums-to-be from around Adelaide who will contact me first. We'll have a bit of a chat and then they'll take some time to discuss it with their partner. Sometimes I'll have a chat with the other parent at the same time and often their questions or concerns centre around what role a doula will play. Will I take over their role? Why do they need a doula if they have a midwife or obstetrician taking care of them? Why should we invest in a doula when I can support my wife myself?
To help answer these great questions, I thought it might be best to hear from those I have worked with so you can get first-hand information. I sent out some interview type questions for Dads to answer to hopefully make things easy for them.
Thanks to Simon for being the first Dad to share his thoughts on hiring Elemental Beginnings as their doula.
1. What were your honest thoughts when Kate first mentioned hiring a doula?
My first thoughts were very positive. I knew a bit about Doulas before we looked further into it.
I knew that Doulas are quite simply an added set of safe hands who have a lot of experience and knowledge with birth, labouring and after birth care. I knew that having a Doula present before/during and after the birth of our son was always going to be valuable source for us.
2. If you had any initial questions or concerns about working with a doula, what were they?
I had no concerns at all. We had an instant connection with Kelly so I (we) knew it was the right thing to do.
3. Could you talk a little about our work together, both during the birth and before and after, from a partner's perspective?
Reassurance was the key. This was the first time I was involved in the birth of a child. I was nervous but with all our preparation I was fairly confident. I was nervous that I was going to do or say the wrong thing, especially in labour. Kelly was gentle, and her presence was always felt. She knew when to be involved and when to step back. Her subtle guidance just reassured me that I too was doing a good job.
4. If your birth didn't quite go to plan, how did having me there or our prenatal sessions make a difference for you?
Our plan/preference was to have a home birth, surrounded by love and support instead of machines, bright lights and interference. The labour was very long (24 hours) and our son was a little stuck by the end of it. My wife’s heart rate was getting higher and higher so the midwives called an ambulance. We always knew that our ‘plan’ might not go perfectly so we were prepared for the hospital.
Having Kelly there, especially after the call was made to go to hospital, made me feel comfortable knowing that this is something that can happen and that everything was going to be ok. She reassured me that this was normal procedure and our midwives had my wife and son's health as their top priority - something that can be forgotten about in the heat of the moment.
5. How would you explain a doula to your best mate?
A Doula is someone who has a lot of experience in childbirth, someone who offers knowledge, comfort and ongoing support with child birth and after care.
6. What is your advice to other dads and partners who may be considering hiring me, now that you've experienced birth with a doula?
My advice is do it. It is a guarantee that someone will be working with you. Someone who has experience, a safe set of hands, and someone who will help you have a memorable and empowering birthing experience.
If you would like to talk to Simon further about his child's birth, he has kindly offered for me to pass on his email address. Just get in contact with me and I can forward you his details. Just click the button below and pop in your details.
During your pregnancy it is common to experience various discomforts such as morning sickness, hemorrhoids, prenatal anxiety and heartburn. You can speak to your doula and ask for recommendations about who to see and of course check with your care provider about your concerns.
Below is a list of frequently recommended professionals who support pregnant women around Adelaide.
The Little Oak Studio
Rachel specialises in Maternity, Newborn and Family Photography in her home studio in Redwood Park. She will be launching 'Fresh 48' sessions in hospitals soon too!
Naturopathy by Bec
Evolve Chiropractic & Wellbeing
Climbing Tree Chiropractic
Lea Papworth Acupuncture
Health & Harmony
Essence of Yoga
The Yoga Centre
Smart Health Training
Energy & Motion Integrated Physiotherapy
Full Circle Physiotherapy
Bedside Beauty & Wellness
They come to you!
Clarity Massage & Wellness
Nest Yoga & Wellbeing
A beautiful boutique studio for pregnancy, postnatal and well woman yoga and chiropractic in the eastern suburbs of Adelaide. Services include prenatal yoga, mums & bubs yoga, Birth planning, Childbirth education and active birth workshops and chiropractic for pregnancy, postnatal and children
Paediatric & Perinatal Centre
Psychological support for families from pregnancy planning through birth, postnatal and early childhood. We provide evidence based clinical psychology for anyone in this period who could benefit from professional assistance with fertility issues, worry, poor mood, difficulty adjusting to parenthood, traumatic birth, relationship stress in this period, concerns about relationships with baby and everything else!
Breathe Stretch Float
1/153 Flinders Street, Adelaide
We provide flotation therapy, it allows a mother to float in 350 kg Epsom salt and take all the weight from their joints. We also provide salt therapy and have Adelaide's only salt cave. Salt therapy is very relaxing and is a great drug free way to alleviate symptoms of cough, cold, hay fever, asthma and other respiratory conditions as well as skin conditions like acne, eczema and psoriasis.
Lastly we conduct havening technique a psycho-sensory technique to remove or reduce fears, phobias anxieties and the bodies reaction to traumatic events. Very helpful for mothers suffering anxiety about the birth.
Healthful Women's Wellness Clinic
Integrative Health Solutions
Women's & Children's Health Network
Pregnancy and birth information
Pregnancy - SA Health
Government information and fact sheets on pregnancy topics and related policies
If you provide services to pregnant women around Adelaide or the hills and would like to be included in this resource guide, please contact me and send through your details.
I've worked with a couple of families who have traveled back to Adelaide specifically for the birth of their baby. Navigating a health-care system you aren't familiar with can add another level of uncertainty to your situation and may mean you are away from your family, friends or usual support network.
Hiring me as your doula provides you with a level of continuity of care and a support person who is there just for you and your family.
Thanks to Kate, Craig and their delightful daughter for sharing this with me.
We recently hired Kelly as a doula for the birth of our first baby and she was phenomenal! We moved to Adelaide just 6 weeks prior to the birth and we were in search of someone who could provide continuity of care and support with a public hospital birth. She gave us that... and so much more! Our initial meetings with Kelly helped to inform our approach to the birth, allowed us to work through answers to many questions and left us feeling empowered. During labour, when our birth deviated from some of our original preferences, Kelly supported us in the process of making confident and informed decisions that were best for us and our baby. She has a kind nature, a calming presence and an open heart. If you are looking for a doula, Kelly is a dream to work with and we can't imagine our birth experience without her!
As you can see from my client's own words, birth is unpredictable. Sometimes it doesn't matter if you've taken all the classes, read all the books and blogs and even hired a doula. Mother nature can have her own plans. But what can you do when your birth takes an unexpected turn?
6 Things You Can Do When Your Birth Isn't Going To Plan
Everyone has some kind of plan, hopes, preferences or wishes for how they want the birth of their baby to go. Which is great. Hopefully it means that you've thought about your options and your family's values and made a communication document for your care provider.
If you're a client of mine, we will also talk through your back-up plans while you are still pregnant. This includes what your preferences might be if you change your mind about something, pain relief for example, or if your body or baby have their own plans and you need to consider an instrumental or surgical birth.
So what can you do if your birth is deviating from your original plan?
If you are interested in a birth planning session that covers all this and more, you can work with me here. You'll soon see that I do things a little differently when it comes to birth plans and expectations! Birth planning and coaching sessions are available to anyone and can be done over Zoom or Skype. They can be single sessions to help you prepare for your birth.
This post is not intended to cover what to do if your birth has left you feeling traumatised in any way. If you need support and resources for a bad birth, please use this link or the resources on Pinterest board below.
Strawberry Cream Pie is one of my favourite indulgent desserts. I'm lactose intolerant, so I avoid dairy where possible, but this recipe is so creamy you wouldn't know it was dairy free. It also has the advantage of being raw, vegan, gluten free and so quick and easy to make. I have converted this recipe for my thermomix but any good blender or food processor will do. Let me know what you think
100g raw almonds
20g raw walnuts
30g dried, shredded coconut
1tsp coconut oil
300g fresh strawberries - washed and hulled
120g raw unsalted cashews
40g vanilla extract
50g raw honey
1 pinch salt
190g melted coconut oil
Mill crust ingredients in thermomix 10 seconds, speed 8
Press firmly into the bottom of a pie plate, slightly building up the sides
Place in fridge while making filling
Without washing your thermomix, place all filling ingredients in and blend on speed 7, 37 degrees (to keep oil melted) for 1 minute. You may need to scrape down the sides half way through to make sure the filling is smooth and creamy.
Pour the filling on top of the crust and refrigerate for at least 3 hours until set.
Serve straight from the fridge.
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Kelly Harper is the owner of Elemental Beginnings Doula & Placenta Services in Adelaide. She provides placenta encapsulation and doula services to families during pregnancy, birth and in their fourth trimester.